Abuse

Abusive systems abuse people. And often those abused people will go and abuse others.

And that sucks. And it’s sad beyond belief. It’s sad to watch. It’s sad seeing people abuse someone else. It’s sad seeing someone carry on an abusive way of behaving only because they don’t know there is an alternative — abuse is their normal. Humanity is really good at abuse and protecting abuse and abusive systems. So much easier to cover it up and pretend that nothing is going on.

And in the mean time innocent people suffer.

Why do people stay in unjust and abusive systems? Do they choose to? Maybe. Maybe they think they can work the system. Maybe they think they are benefiting? Maybe they don’t actually see that they are abused? Maybe it’s too painful to change? Maybe they don’t know they have any other options? Maybe their desire for control and stability is so strong that even though they suffer, they at least have a sense of knowing what is taking place — a sense of control? Better to deal with an evil known, rather than the unknown, which might be worse?

Why is it that abusers are often given more consideration than their victims? Is it because they are powerful? Or maybe others fear turning the abuse on themselves.

Why are those who insist on maintaining a status quo (especially an abusive status quo), given more consideration than those who have suffered abuse? Why do they get to set the terms on how things might change, how fast they might change and what can be talked about? That’s just more abuse…