Brad, I'm so very sorry to read this. I read the previous article your wrote earlier.

Consider this - what is it about gathering your family together is so important to you? Is there a way to do that, so you can get your needs fulfilled, without all of your family actually gathering? Can you gather with friends. Take time to mourn the loss of what was your family. It will be well worth it. Maybe you can make new traditions. You can't control what others will do, which I gather you understand from your article. So what do you have in your control? Go with that. Hang in there.