I totally get that and have a lot of respect for you for that. I can't stand when Christianity is used in a way that is abusive. I have seen it and experienced it myself and it is just plain terrible. And unfortunately I think there are far too many people who don't even realize that what they are doing is abnormal because they have been in it for so long they think that abuse is the norm. It's really sad. But that's not an excuse to maintain abuse though. I'd much rather see the church burnt to the ground rather than saved and have abuse continue. At any rate, thanks again for your writing. And keep asking questions that upset people.