Is winning really everything?

There are a variety of ways of dealing with the world and looking at the world. One way is with a narrow or simplistic lens. Sometimes this is called either/or thinking. The idea is that there is an us and a them. And everyone is either with us or with them.

In discussions, if you can call them that, the point is to figure out who your friends are and who your enemies are. When discussing topics, the point is to win because what else would there be? It’s all or nothing after all. A fixed quotient. One side has 100% of correctness with it, and the other has 0%. And there…