Is winning really everything?

There are a variety of ways of dealing with the world and looking at the world. One way is with a narrow or simplistic lens. Sometimes this is called either/or thinking. The idea is that there is an us and a them. And everyone is either with us or with them.

In discussions, if you can call them that, the point is to figure out who your friends are and who your enemies are. When discussing topics, the point is to win because what else would there be? It’s all or nothing after all. A fixed quotient. One side has 100% of correctness with it, and the other has 0%. And there certainly isn’t any room for growth. There is already 100%.

And you’d think that winning would bring things to an end. That’s what logic would you one to conclude. We won the argument — we are done! It is over. But have you ever experienced a true ending with any either/or way of thinking or the people who espouse it? I haven’t. Rather, it just goes on and on and on — forever. There is never an ending. There’s always another enemy, another clash, another argument, another fight, another war, another, another, another… Another them. Always. It never ends. For infinity.

There is never sabbath rest. Never shalom — wholeness, completeness, enough. There is never peace. There is never the kingdom of God. Never.

Why do we legitimize this mindset? Why do we pick sides, as if picking sides will ever resolve the situation and bring it to a conclusion? It won’t.