I've been making the argument that the church needs to provide intentional opportunities and instruction on lament and mourning. If for no other reason, than to deal with the decline of the institutional organizational church. But most often we have people who would rather go to nostalgia, or ignore the reality of where we are. You made a very important point - the church in the West is too middle class. Indeed. I often wonder if the middle class church actually hears Good News, or even grasps what it could be. Because that Good News conflicts with middle class values more often than not - values based on maintaining the status quo. I'm blessed to be at a call that took the proclamation of life, death, resurrection and actually believed it enough to implement it. It meant death to the idea that the church would ever be 3000 members again. Embracing that and mourning it meant that they were open to what resurrection might look like. We often don't like this though because it means we are facing death - and death serves a purpose: it gets in our face and tells us that we are not in control. In order for resurrection to happen, death has to precede it. And that means death to the idea that we are in control - this is something especially difficult for middle class folks to take in.